Want to Be Hot? — I Hope Not

Words and Definition“Oh, Be Careful Little Mouth What You Say…”

Seems our culture has gotten a lot less careful about a lot of things, especially things regarding sexuality.

  • TV programs air things today that years ago would have been relegated to R-rated movie theaters — or worse!
  • Magazine covers are so lewd that I cringe whenever going through the check-out line, which–thanks to our garden, our CSA, our co-op, and the fact that I make almost everything from scratch (including coconut milk, chocolate chips and foaming soap)–I rarely grace with my presence anymore.
  • Clothing has gotten so outlandish that it is even hard to shop in even the most conservative at stores, and I struggle with what my husband and sons end up looking at, even at church.

But what about our words?

Language reflects a great deal about who we are.

I think that, as Christians (and moral persons of every religious persuasion), we need to be careful what we say and think more carefully about what our words mean rather than just pick up what the culture is using and adopt it as our own.

To quote one of my husband’s colleagues, John Leonard (a Milton scholar), “The corrupting of innocence begins with a corrupting of language.”

So true!

Now I already was concerned and uncomfortable whenever I heard words like 

  • “scr*w”
  • “s*cks” and
  • “bl*ws” make their way into mainstream speech.  I know, it probably seems strange to you that I am putting the “modesty asterisks” in there, but I just can’t help it.  Knowing what their original meaning is, it really grosses me out to type them and well, my 10 year old often reads my posts, so I’d rather keep him a bit more innocent for a while longer :-).

More recently, however, I have been increasingly discouraged to hear this newcomer in our common everyday speech.

The word “hottie.”

Please come over to Modern Alternative Mama for the rest of my thoughts on Sexuality and Speech.

And if you have a moment, I’d love it if you dropped back over here to tell me your thoughts as I can read comments, but cannot interact with readers over there :-).

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  1. I just wanted to thank you for this article! It’s so encouraging to read this at a blog for good food and health. We have always taught these things to our 4 homeschooled children (20yob, 16yog,15yob,12yog) but another group of slang words we make sure to not use are, “wicked”, “sic”, etc. To call something that is neat or cool “wicked” is to desensitize what is truely wicked. I think of the verse in Isaiah 5:20 “Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!”.

    • Tracy,
      Thank you so much for your comment. That means a lot. I have been thinking and praying about the direction of my blog. I have gotten some advice to “streamline” my blog to encompass just food and health topics, but I still long to write posts on autism and sometimes more spiritual / reflective posts. So I need to think about it more. I want my blog to be information that all people can use – not just those who agree with my thinking about other issues, but I do wish to share my thoughts on other issues as well, and I don’t think I have time for another blog :-). Maybe in time.

  2. Thanks for posting – I agree with you. I hate hearing those words:-(

  3. Thanks for speaking up about this issue.

  4. Hi Heather, Oh you are so right. I thought all of that and taught my daughter to be modest in dress and language. I agree with the “language” too. It seems so dated yet I have always thought that way. Thanks so much for stating this. I don’t feel so alone. Kay

  5. I’m a new reader (as of today) and I’m so grateful to have found your site. I felt God putting this very issue on my heart last night and seeing it again today helps me to know for sure that I really need to improve. Growing up these words were all considered expletives. Now they are part of our common language. While I already strive to keep my language clean, this was a great reminder that I still have some work to do. Thank you so much.

  6. Really excellent post Adrienne. I completely agree. 🙂

  7. Heather succinctly phrased my thoughts. I have long noticed the deterioration of language. Newspapers, news reporters on radio and television and even school instructors can no longer be trusted to used proper grammar, spelling and syntax. I work in what is still considered to be a man’s field, engineering, and listening to some of the workers and other engineers (even other women engineers) can make my ears glaze over. (I know that phrase is for eyes but I don’t know a comparable phrase for ears.)

  8. Leslie Dawn Neagle says:

    Adrienne, Thank you for your encouraging words. Us moms want to put all our ducks in a row. But we can not make everyone perfect especially ourselves. I’m so glad for theses verses: “…for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.” ~1 Samuel 16:6-8
    “For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” ~Hebrews 4:11-13 When people or do things only God really understands their intentions. But we have this tool for sucess:
    “Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.”~Psalm 37:3-5

  9. Erica Miller says:

    I totally agree with you. I have more thoughts on the subject but am too tired to think right now 🙂

  10. I agree that language has spun out of control. We can’t enunciate, spell, communicate effectively, etc. On top of that we are now re-purposing words with sexual overtones. I am so glad that, at least for now, my children are shielded from a lot of it. Thanks.

  11. I just read the entire article over at M.A.M. and posted a comment over there. I have to say, though, that I completely agree with you and love the quote from your husband’s colleague. Thanks for posting this!

    • Thanks for coming back to let me know what you thought! I can’t interact with readers on M.A.M., but I just dropped by and read the other comments. I am really pleased that it has struck a cord with others. I was a bit nervous speaking my mind on this one.

      See you around! Isn’t that quote wonderful? He is a very sharp scholar. It is so funny. I have been helping my husband with a big project this week and there was that quote, in the middle of one of the sources that I was checking. I read it and grabbed my husband to show him. It was so wonderful that I had to add it to my post!

      Blessings on you and yours.